10 Years and He Told Me He Wants to Separate

Dear Heartbreak Clinic, my soon to be ex and I have been together for ten years. He told me last night that he wants to separate. We've had our ups and downs through the years. He said it's been so bad for so long that he can't do it anymore. I have a different picture of our relationship, so it's been tough to accept. We have two children and a house that we purchased together. I feel so lost. 

Any advice? 

Now that they have decided they are ready to let go, the only option you have is to let go and move on. I know this hurt, but this will be a time for you to get to know yourself and explore self-care. It is tough to lose a relationship that you've probably give your all, but you must commend them for their honesty. The road ahead will be difficult, but healing is possible, and you can experience love again if you take the time to heal correctly during this time.  

Once you've collected your thought, here is a checklist of things you will need to do: 

  • Meet with an attorney 
  • Create a new budget and start saving and planning for the future 
  • Go to therapy or seek coaching. 
  • Plan for the children 
  • Surround yourself with a loving and supportive community of woman 
  • Accept that you are responsible for your happiness and what happens from here. 

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