6 of the worst mistakes you can make that can hurt or end your relationship
We all make mistakes, because we are human. The problem is relationship mistakes do not only affect you, but it they can also cause harm to the other person. Regardless of if you’re just dating or married, a careless or selfish decision can cause injury your partner.
Here are 6 of the biggest mistakes made in relationships:
Challenging your mate’s values – the things that make them who they are
People want to be appreciated, heard and seen, for who they are; if you feel the need to change them by complaining, making suggestions for them to change, or overwhelming them with your opinion it will damage the relationship long term.
Take a couple minutes to think about how you would feel if the person you are in a relationship with complained about the things that make you who you are. How would this make you feel? Would you be willing to change who you are to make them happy?
The reality is you should move on with your life if you cannot love the person you are with for who they are.
Getting too comfortable and let your body go
Think about when you were alone. You felt motivated to the best you can be, physically, mentally and emotionally to attract a good and quality partner. This means you gave a lot of attention to your overall needs, such as exercise, and your diet. However, most often in relationships we gradually become comfortable. As we start to feel comfortable with our partner, we become complacent. We eventually being to eating unhealthy foods, and reduce the time spent working out or complete forgo exercise all completely.
Personal care is not selfish; but it is necessary for the success of your relationship. One thing you can do to improve your health and your relationship is hit the gym together. Studies have shown that couples who sweat together have strong bonds and healthier relationships.
Not making time to nurture and grow the relationship
Many couples seeking therapy do so because the spark has burnt out in the relationship.
Making time for each other is super important if you want your relationship to succeed; when you no longer set aside special time for each other you will naturally grow apart. The health of every relationship depends on the spending time together. It can be as simple as turning off the phone, making eye contact, and just connecting with each out without distractions.
Sometimes we can become so wrapped up in the hustle and bustle of life that we forget to pause and think about the people who truly matter. The best thing you can do is take time out to keep the fire burning in your relationship.
Not including your partner in big decisions
In healthy relationships, partners work as a team. This means that there is a factor of “we” instead of the factor of “me”. This occurs when both small and large decisions are made together. Consulting with your partner shows that you appreciate their opinion, that you have their interest in mind that you care about their feelings. Often times conflict will arise from unmet expectations, so it is necessary to collaborate and agree on expectations when making decision to avoid conflicts.
Not having your partner's back
Sometimes it will be difficult to see things from your partner perspective, but it is necessary to approach challenges and obstacles as a team. This can be can become very complicated when dealing with things that tend to come up with extended family, but you two must work together to do what works best for the relationship. Sometimes there may be some initial upset when you begin to prioritize your partner and the relationship over extended family members, but it’s important that your partner knows that you two are a team and you will always have their back. When you have a partner in life that you love and respect making the decision to have their back will be easy.
Someone or both people cheat
Cheating on each other is one of the most harmful things that can happen in a relationship. It destroys trust. Once trust has been broken in a relationship it will never return to its original state the damage will be irreversible. If there is something lacking in your relationship or you have an unmet need you must communicate this with your partner immediately. By communicate with your partner about disconnects and dissatisfaction you give them an opportunity to work with you to improve the relationship. When you are able to work together to make thing better the improves and your bond is strengthened. Cheating is the only option and the relationship cannot be preserved it is best to walk away to prevent damaging each other emotionally.
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