First Date Do's and Don'ts
We've all been there. The awkward and the most nerve-wracking experience of our first date, and we will never get used to this no matter how many times we've done it before. Sure it can be a fun night or a disaster, but there are ways to make your first date a success and leave a great impression on your date. The truth is, it's important to remember these tips to make sure that your time and effort spent on that day will not go to waste or, worst, will not leave a negative impression on your date. So without any further ado, here are some do's and don'ts for your first date ever.
Do #1– Be On Time
Well, the first thing that should be on the list is to be on time. This is pretty simple and a no-brainer, but most people tend to forget this simple step. Being on time shows how much you respect the person's time; no one should be kept waiting, especially on your first date. If you are interested in your date, you should respect his time and be on time on your dates. If you can't make it on time due to any circumstances, let him know. Just don't make him wait like you're being a hard-to-get prima donna.
Do #2 – Be Your Natural Self
The first golden rule of life – if you want to be loved and accepted who you are, show him on your first date. Of course, no one will get to know a person as a whole during your first encounter or overnight, but at least don't try to fake who you are as a person. If you like to choose burgers over steaks, then so be it. If you don't like wearing a dress and stilettos, wear jeans and sneakers to show him who you are. Although it may be tempting to make your life and personality more glamorous and attractive, your aim here is to let the person know more about the real you and build an intimate connection with this person. Just be authentic and genuine but with boundaries and decency, of course.
Do #3 – Be Interested and Have Something to talk about
What makes the first date awkward and a failure is during your conversation with your dating partner. It's best if you have some topics to talk about during your first date but remember to maintain your information boundaries. Don't overshare. Give him the chance to talk and listen. Be interested even if his job or his interest and passions aren't the same as yours.
Do #4 – Do Your Research
This is your first time dating this person, so do your research on him. Another important note to remember is what makes a date successful is if there are similar interests or connections. Is it necessary? Yes, and No, the answer is Absolutely. If you want to build a rapport with this person, take some time to know his interest. Most people do this, find where he went to college? Do you have any mutual friends?, Do you have the same taste in food or entertainment? It's completely fine to do a little research, but DON'T let him know you've been Google-stalking him. Chances are, he did the same thing to you.
So now you know the basic Do's on your first date. Let's move on to the Don'ts.
Don't #1 – Talk about your past or Exes
This is a big NO! Don't ever mention this on your first date. Please don't make it sound that you're a victim of cheating; you hated your ex, your ex did something to you, etc. Just don't mention your past because you will always sound bitter, or worst he may think you are still attached. This is a huge turnoff.
Don't #2 – Be on your phone
Please think that there's an actual person in front of you. Don't be on your phone all the time. You may check it from time to time but give the person in front of you your most attention. You don't want your dating partner to feel uncomfortable with the silence while you're busy with your phone.
Don't #3 – Talk about Finances
Don't be too ahead of yourself and talk about finances on your first date. You may bring this up later, talking about your future goals and visions as a couple but not on a stage where you are still building intimate connections with your dating partner. Talking about finances is a sensitive topic, and it's not ideal for bringing this up on your first date.
Don't #4 – Wear too sexy outfit
Well, most men would like to see women in sexy outfits, there's really nothing wrong with it, and it's entirely up to you. If that's your personality and you feel comfortable and more confident, then go for it. The only point here is not to wear a "too sexy" outfit on your first date. You don't want to give a flirty impression during your first date and that you would like something to happen unless that's your motive. Again, it's entirely up to you, but please consider your long-term relationship goal.
Yes, first impression lasts, powerful as they truly are, and can make a difference between a successful encounter and a failed one. But the most crucial part of your first date is to be your natural self. Show him the total package without sugarcoating who you are as a person. Because if on your first date he can't accept who you are as a whole, then, in the long run, he will never love who you are. Remember, the reason why we're dating is not just to have fun (unless that's your goal) but to somehow meet the right person with who we can spend the rest of our lives.