What to do when you are dating a serial cheater?
Dating a cheater is always one of the hardest things to do in life. I mean, imagine being in love with someone who's thinking about someone else? Regardless, we sometimes find ourselves in relationships with a serial cheater. With that in mind, what should you do when you are dating a serial cheater?
Well, if that's your current dilemma, then this article is for you. From experience, I'll walk you through several tips you can use in your relationship. Remember, you don't have to break up with your partner.
In most cases, your partner will feel like they can't stop cheating even if they want to. Thankfully, I will give you a few tips on how to deal with your partner.
Find out the truth
Have you found evidence of your partner cheating? If yes, then skip to the next point. But if you only suspect your partner of being unfaithful, I'm sure your first reaction will be to react out of anger or even threaten them.
Try not to be impulsive. Before you accuse your partner of infidelity, make sure you have most of the facts, if not all. Without a doubt, as a woman, you have that extra sense, especially when it comes to relationships. So, there's a high chance you already sense that something is wrong even before you got to your current state. And with that in mind, try and back up your feeling with facts. Don't just go pointing fingers. They will probably deny it if you don't have all the facts.
Infidelity is a very delicate matter for any couple, and it will likely put a dent in your relationship for life. More importantly, if it's true that your partner is cheating on you, you will be scarred for a lifetime. So, before doing anything, ensure you have all the facts right.
Confront your partner
Once you have all the information, then you need to confront your partner. Talk to them and tell them you already know of their cheating habits.
Then explain to your partner the reason why you think they are cheating on you. It doesn't matter how stupid your ideas may sound, but make sure you tell the story exactly how you see it happen. After that, give your partner the chance to explain why or even tell you what was happening.
Even if this confrontation will confirm your worst fears, it's always best to know what is truly happening. Truth be told, this is usually the biggest fear for every woman. But you need to take it all in and confront your partner before it’s too late.
Talk to a relationship counselor
If you indeed find out that your partner has been cheating on you, trust me that will crush your soul. More to that, you will be physically and emotionally stressed out and overwhelmed. And that's not a good space to be in.
When you are stressed out, there's a high chance that you are likely to do something that you'll regret. For instance, paying back by cheating as well or even acting out to extreme levels. As much as these examples sound like the right thing to do, they are not. At the end of the day, if you are upset, your judgment is compromised.
Believe you me, the many times I've had to react out of anger; I regretted everything I did. When the dust settles, it's hard to imagine how quickly things can escalate.
So, with that in mind, take your time and consult with a relationship expert. Yes. You heard that right! A relationship expert will give you the best way forward by helping you get to the bottom of what's happening.
That way, your partner will sort out whether to move on with you or not. We all know that when your partner cheats, the love you have will be forever changed. It’s up to you to decide if it’s time to call-it-quits.
Find out where the trust ends
Once your mind is a little calmer, you need to decide where the trust for your partner ended. Whether it's because your partner cheated or not. Remember, lack of trust is like poison for any relationship, let alone marriage.
Though this might sound difficult, it may be time to let your partner go to avoid the long term hurt from infidelity. It sounds harsh, but that's the truth. Luckily, when you talk to a relationship expert, you will find the best way to move forward.
When I found out that my partner was cheating on me, that broke my heart into little pieces. And I mean literally! I had to let my partner go because I couldn't look at myself in the mirror for even a slight second. Every time I went to the bathroom mirror, I was always ashamed of the person I’m becoming so I had to let them go.
But it's not always like that. Some people eventually work out their differences, and they get to experience happiness together.
Finally, be ready for an ultimatum
Now that everything is crystal clear and your partner is still cheating, then it’s time to give them an ultimatum. Its either they decide to change their ways, or you move on with your life.
If you feel like your partner is still fooling around, then it's time to pack up and go. Don't let your partner give you another explanation. Leave while you still have self-respect.
Well, there you have it! A cheating partner will always affect you emotionally. Take your time to understand what is happening. However, as much as it’s not the only alternative if your partner is still cheating, then just leave and never look back. But if your partner is trying to make amends, then you should give them the chance to change.
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